[Typo3] Creating a Menu - Problems

[Amir Mualem]

Hey guys,

I am having some problems as I create my menu based on the FTB tutorial. 
    I assume that maybe this tutorial wont suit me but I cant find 
anything else that would give me a good foothold and something close to 
a menu.

Basically I am trying to create a Typo3 template for the home page and 
most of the pages based off of this HTML:

http://www.stratcommandcenter.com/redesign/fileadmin/templates/home2.html

This is what I have so far:
http://www.stratcommandcenter.com/redesign

If you can take a look at the source of each one, you will notice that I 
  outer mapped the <UL> tag for my menu.  Before I inner wrapped the div 
id LEFT NAV... but then how do I include the UL tag for each menu?

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Another question, as you can see my menu's are separated by different 
categories.  Each category on the left navigation column is wrapped with 
an <h3> tag, the h3 tag is styled in my CSS.  How can I create this? 
How can I create the ability to seperate my navigation links into 
different categories and sections and have a title/header for each one 
surrounded by an h3 tag?

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Last question in this post, how can I get rid of or change default Typo3 
styles?  How can I make my menu links have just a pure, unaltered <a> 
tag around it.. As you can see, all of my menu links are surrounded by this:

<a href="index.php?id=14" onfocus="blurLink(this);">About Us </a>

How can I take out the onfocus?

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Thanks, its a handful, but I'm a noob, what can I say? :)